Last Friday I woke up in a bed completely to myself, no little bodies pushed me to the very corner of the mattress, and had a day filled with activities that didn’t involve diaper bags and toddler meltdowns ahead of me. It was my very first trip away from the babies! I was actually really nervous leading up to it, and if I’m honest if it wasn’t my sister’s bachelorette I probably would’ve stayed home. I’m so happy that I went though, and I had an incredible time!
I think as a mom there is always a reason to not take that little bit of time for yourself. I know I worry about leaving for too long because what if the babies need me — which when I really stop to think about it, Myles and both kiddos are perfectly capable of carrying on without me for a few days. Isn’t it funny the pressure we put on ourselves as mommas? We want to always be there, but if there’s anything this weekend taught me it’s that sometimes you need to take a day, two days, hell, at the very least an hour just for yourself.
I was able to shower without Logan and Rhyan following me into the bathroom, wanting to be picked up. When we went out to eat, I didn’t have to juggle a baby on the boob or quick hands trying to grab at the water glasses. It was nice to be on my own schedule for a change. Obviously, I missed those two little faces so much and couldn’t wait to see them Sunday morning, but that time away gave me a physical and mental reset. Especially as a stay-at-home mom, you don’t get a ton of adult interaction throughout the day and it can sometimes seem like you’re on a nonstop loop of wake up, feed babies, play, change diapers, hopefully get out of the house, feed babies, change diapers, try to get some stuff done around the house, dad comes home, dinner, bath time, put babies to sleep, try to catch up on your shows, bed, repeat.
Whether it’s getting to that workout class or making the time for a mani/pedi, I think it’s important we mommas remember that our self care is important. Right now I try to get to the gym every morning, but that sometimes gets derailed by the kids. That hour every day is my time and I’m going to try and do a better job of making sure I take it.
How are you loving yourself today?